The Place to be

The Place to be

The Place to Be

There is an old saying that goes something like this “You live most of your life inside your head , make sure its a nice place to be”.

How do you get that place where “You” are a nice place to be , where you talk to yourself like you are talking to someone you really love and admire , where you treat yourself like you really,really like yourself ; after all like one of my favourite authors Joyce Meyer says “be good to yourself cos everywhere you go there you are” The only person you can not run away from is you. So you might as well be a nice place to be . The question is how do we get there?

I have a few suggestions ;

Love Yourself Regardless…….. Whatever is going on in your life , wherever you are in your life, make a conscious decision as you read this article that you are going to love yourself a little more than you did before . If you loved yourself before ,then love even more and if you are at that place where you can barely stand yourself or just coping with “You” then start now, loving yourself warts and all. Love your mistakes, what’s done is done , your mistakes and your successes are a part of the sum of you, so take responsibility for them and move on . The minute you decide to love yourself regardless, then things start to happen . If you love yourself at 120kg, then you will probably make the decision on your own that this weight is not good for your heart and you will do something about it and be successful . It all starts in the mind .You will treat this body that is your temple better and stop putting rubbish in it like a trash can . When you love yourself regardless you will calm down , snap at people less and begin to enjoy this journey called life . But please remember as you embark on this self love, realize that everything is about balance. Yes love yourself but have empathy for others and love your neigbours as you love yourself. Notice how the command is to love yourself first then love others as you love yourself . So basically the more you love yourself the more you will love other people, its automatic. And as you embark on that self love journey you may now decide its time to upgrade

2. Upgrade……First of all we need to realize that we must and need to be upgraded, no one is perfect. Every single person needs an upgrade every once in a while . One of my pet peeves is when people say things like “well that’s just me you have to accept me for who i am” . Thats fine but people usually say this when they do something bad or rude or when they do something as i like to say ‘unbecoming of a human being’.
Look, no one is saying that you should change the core person of who you are , but you can be a better you . Phones get upgraded all the time ,every year or so the manufacturer adds something on to the phone or improves a feature thats already on the phone . It doesn’t change the fact that its still a phone , its just a phone with faster processing or a higher pixel camera, or whatever the improvement is ,but its still a phone..Get the picture ?
So how do we upgrade ? Set yourself little goals . Almost every Sunday I set myself small goals for the week , it could be something like go to bed an hour earlier this week so that you are more productive at work or eat really clean this week , or read a chapter a day of the book I’ve been putting off for a while. Even emotional upgrades such as, i will be slow to anger this week , something to improve myself. Whatever it is , however slight, it will still be an upgrade .
As we embark on this new adventure then we must decide its time to enjoy the ride of life and start living on purpose .

3) Live on Purpose ….So now you’ve started loving yourself a little bit more , even upgraded your mind space and now its time to enjoy every singe moment of your life, the good , the bad and the ugly .
I remember on one of my many weight loss journeys( no one is perfect ) i would cheat by eating a chocolate bar really fast , like if i inhaled it then my body wouldn’t notice and it wouldn’t register those calories . Who was i kidding? I was basically cheating myself . So now if i want a chocolate bar I would ask myself a couple of questions and if i still wanted it then i would eat it slowly ,enjoying and savoring every single bite ,making guttural chocolate noises .You know the kind !. The funny thing was more often than not I would not be able to finish it, getting sick of it half way through or I would totally enjoy the experience for 10 delicious minutes instead of 10 guilt filled seconds .
So live on purpose .Love on purpose . Go to work with purpose , Rest on purpose , even binge watch your favorite series on purpose.
Bad things will happen , loved ones will pass on , your heart may get broken . people may disappoint you or you may disappoint people ,  but that’s life ..

This is it, the final curtain so enjoy every single moment of this experience called life and learn how to live your best life now. Life is not a dress rehearsal .

So Remember Make sure your mind is a nice place to be .